“Having moved abroad, what do you wish you had known, or taken advice on, beforehand?”
Hello again! I hope that 2024 has started well for you?
“Having moved abroad, what do you wish you had known or taken advice on beforehand?” was the question posed to expatriates recently in a survey carried out by the Euro Weekly newspaper which then led into an article. It reminded me of some of the tips in my book “Brains at the Border”. Moving abroad is a significant life change and there are things people often wish they had known in advance. Here below are some common aspects to consider, plus a video link to my discussion with Jane Mitchell of the Mum Abroad team with some further insights: https://youtu.be/0AOemUT3d0c?si=2eWwXpE81xibjJa7 .
Language Barrier:
– . It can sometimes be hilarious – for example “embarazada” in Spanish does not mean “embarrassed” it means “pregnant”. And even if you’re moving to an English-speaking country, nuances in language and communication styles can be challenging. A child’s “buggy” is a “stroller” in America for instance. Learning some basic phrases in the local language can be helpful. You do not need to physically attend a language school, there are so many online programmes and apps that can help you gain confidence. Locals really do love it when you at least try to speak their native tongue!
Cultural Differences/Homesickness:
– Understanding and respecting cultural differences is crucial. It goes beyond language though; customs, social norms, and even everyday interactions can vary widely. The British shake hands, the Japanese bow, whereas an Italian will probably kiss you! There are books on etiquette for a vast selection of countries available, from shops and online, in the “Culture Shock” series. A change of diet, climate and routine, can also throw us off balance and we may miss the familiarity of “home” as we adjust.
Cost of Living:
– Research the cost of living in your new location. Salaries, taxes, transport prices etc may differ significantly from your home country, affecting your budget and lifestyle. For example, in Spain parents are expected to pay for all school books and materials – they are not routinely provided for state education. Remember too that rates of exchange can alter suddenly! Research and compare some online banking/currency transfer options – Moneycorp and Wise are just two examples of these.
Legal and Admnistrative Matters:
– Familiarize yourself with local laws, regulations, and administrative processes. This includes visa requirements, work permits, and education and healthcare systems. The Government / Embassies of most countries have information based and interactive websites. Seek independent local legal advice and ensure any interpreters and translators are professionals and not just a biased friend of the agent doing deals with you. Knowing how to access emergency services too avoids panic in a crisis!
Networking and Social Connection:
– Building a social support system is crucial. Try to connect with locals and other expats to help navigate the challenges and enrich your experience. Platforms such as ExpatFocus, Expat.com can connect you with local expatriate communities and events. Joining these communities can provide practical advice and emotional support. Internations is another way of connecting online and also attending in – person events. You may find Facebook groups for the area you are moving to and members are usually happy to share their experiences.
“If you fail to plan, you plan to fail” – quote from Benjamiin Franklins
By researching and preparing for these aspects, we can better navigate the challenges of moving abroad and make our transition smoother. In “Brains at the Border” I included some links to useful groups and organisations that provide a wealth of help and advice. I am proud to be listed as a consultant with the Mum Abroad team, just one of those organisations, who provide wonderful support to mothers and their families in Spain, France, Italy and Germany. If you haven’t already, please click on the link to access my conversation with Jane Mitchell of Mum Abroad: https://youtu.be/0AOemUT3d0c?si=2eWwXpE81xibjJa7
Until next time, enjoy your travels!
